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The ordinary non-wetting child
An ordinary child (and adult), who does not suffer from bed-wetting, lives his life in absolute freedom regarding bladder control.
He does not make any special effort or action in order not to wet his bed at night. The reflex system which controls the bladder during sleep functions in an autonomic manner, similarly to other autonomic systems in the body, such as the heart system and the respiratory system.
He drinks freely during evening time.
He can be tired and sleep very deeply.
He is not affected by temperature changes or moods prior to his sleep.
He does not have to void himself before he goes to bed.
He is not woken-up to void during his sleep.
He is not dependent on medications
He is incapable of wetting his bed uncontrollably. Whatever he does, he will not wet his bed. Either he will sleep through the night, or he will sense the pressure in his bladder and wake up to the bathroom.
The aim of any bed-wetting treatment must be to bring the wetting child to a position in which he can live exactly as a non-wetting child.
He will be able to go to sleep without any special preparations or actions and still not wet his bed.
Keeping in mind the statements above, we shall review some frequently asked questions.
Is my child allowed to drink at night time and prior to bed time?
Bed-wetting is not a result of “over” drinking before bed time. An ordinary child can drink as much as he likes prior to his sleep and still he will not wet his bed.
If his bladder becomes full, he will sense that and wake up to go to the bathroom. This is exactly the way a bed-wetting child should live. Hence: absolute unrestrained drinking is allowed before bedtime.
The attempt to impose restrictions of drinking on a child before his sleep will not bring any improvement in bladder control.
However, it may lead to arguments between the child and the parents creating a bad atmosphere.
Is it obligatory to void prior to sleep?
An ordinary child will not wet his bed at night even if he did not void prior to his sleep.
If his bladder becomes full, he will feel it and wake up to go to the bathroom. This is exactly the way a bed-wetting child should live. Hence: A child must not be forced to void before bedtime. The child must decide freely by himself if he needs to void or not.
The attempt to force a child to void before his sleep will not bring any improvement in bladder control. However, it may be the cause for unnecessary arguments and a bad atmosphere.
Children (and adults) do not always feel a need to void prior to sleep. Refusal to parents’ demands could come from a simple reason: There is no need to void.
Additional emotional damage may be caused when parents interpret refusal as apathy, lack of concern or even as a deliberate intent to wet at night. These accusations may aggravate any existing feelings of failure and helplessness.
Are there any kinds of food or beverages that should be avoided prior to sleep?
A regular child will not wet his bed, period. He eats and drinks whatever and as much as he desires.
If he ate or drank a food or beverage that had diuretic qualities, his bladder would become full. He would then sense the pressure and go to the toilet. This is exactly the way a bed-wetting child should live. Hence: A child should not be dictated the food or drink that he should have at night and prior to his bed time. The decision must be made freely by the child.
The attempt to dictate kinds of food or drink to a child before his sleep will not bring any improvement in bladder control.
However, it may lead to arguments and a bad atmosphere.
Is bed-wetting caused by deep sleep?
A good solid and deep sleep is a blessing and results in sound functioning during the day.
Most children and adults sleep deeply and still do not wet their bed at night. The bed-wetting child will be able to sleep deeply and still not wet his bed after he has been treated and his problem solved.
Therefore, a bed-wetting child should be allowed to play, to run around and to get tired as much as he likes during the day. He should not be imposed with any restrictions and should not be dictated with early sleeping hours in order to prevent bed-wetting.
Again, these restrictions may lead to arguments and a bad atmosphere.
An ordinary child will not wet his bed whether he has been woken up or not. The control of the bladder is autonomic and automatic. Most children and adults sleep consecutively during the whole night. If the bladder becomes full, they wake-up by themselves to void.
When a child is woken up during the night by his parents, the wetting might be avoided during this specific night. This action does not lead to an intact autonomic and automatic control of the bladder. When this action continues for a long period of time it might impair the quality of the child’s sleep and damage his concentration and functioning in school during the day.
When the child sleeps deeply and refuses his parents’ attempts to wake him up to go to the toilet, useless exhausting arguments and confrontations are made which cause more anguish and suffering to him and his parents.
Does giving rewards on dry nights contribute to the solution of the problem?
Bed-wetting is not under the control of the child. It is a malfunctioning of the automatic reflex mechanism that controls the bladder. The aim of the treatment is to repair this malfunction. Rewards or punishments might enhance the child’s vigilance, making his sleep weaker and by that “controlling” his bladder and not wetting his bed.
This kind of “control,” which is not based on proper and automatic functioning of the reflex system, usually collapses after a few days when the child returns to wetting his bed.
In this context, it is often observed that wetting children are able to be dry when they sleep in other houses (relatives or friends). Parents wrongly interpret this as proof that the child is able to control the bladder when he wishes.
By implementing rewards, there is a message of mistrust and a lack of understanding towards the child, which puts the responsibility on the child’s will power.
This is a mistake as it damages the child’s self image and adds to his feeling of loneliness, frustration and helplessness.
Therefore, rewards must not be offered and threats of punishments must not be made as a way of stopping the bed-wetting problem.
Should a wetting child launder his clothes and sheets by himself?
When this task is given to the child as a punishment so that he will make a greater effort to control his bladder – it is wrong, harmful and humiliating.
The bed-wetting problem is caused by a physiological impairment. The child has no real control over it. Punishing the child will not solve the problem; it will only hurt and humiliate him.
Is bed-wetting caused by psychological factors?
Affective situations, such as: an argument prior to sleep, exciting experiences during the day, an upcoming exam, etc., might worsen or amplify the problem in children whose automatic control mechanism of the bladder is malfunctioning. An ordinary child who does not suffer from bed-wetting is subjected to different and varied affective experiences as a natural part of life, but still does not wet the bed. Therefore, a wetting child must not be referred to psychological treatment. When the physiological problem is treated, and when the bladder control mechanism functions properly, the effect of varied affective factors will be neutralized and they will not lead to bed-wetting incidences.
Should a wetting child use absorption means (Diapers)?
The correct and most efficient answer to the bed-wetting problem is to treat the problem itself and stop it from the age of 4.
In children who are not treated, the disposable diapers are practical. They spare the physiological discomfort, smells and laundries and allow the child and the family freedom to sleep outside the house.
Is bed wetting a result of mistakes made by parents?
Most children stop bed-wetting between the ages of 1.5 and 3. The cessation of bed-wetting occurs during a natural developmental process and does not rely on the actions of the parents.
In fact there is no “right” way that parents should take in order to stop bed-wetting. Therefore, there is no justified reason that parents need to feel guilty for any mistakes they have made regarding this subject.
Is the Bedwetting treatment suitable for my child?
The Bed-wetting treatment, using the Alarm, is suitable for most bed-wetting children.
In order to get a detailed diagnosis regarding your child, please complete the “ Diagnostic Questionnaire” and send it to us. It will receive our prompt attention.
Is there a need to perform a medical examination?
It is always recommended that you inform your family doctor regarding the problem so that he may perform any tests he deems necessary.
Can the Bed-wetting treatment be harmful?
The Bedwetting treatment, using a Bedwetting alarm, has no undesirable consequences. It only has desirable, positive results.
We have tried treating the problem ourselves with the alarm but without success. Does it mean that the alarm is not effective for our child?
When parents try treating their child by themselves with the electronic alarm but without adequate professional guidance, there is only a 15% chance to succeed. However, when parents receive adequate professional guidance and support, success is almost 100%.
When is it preferable to start the Bed-wetting treatment, in the winter or in the summer?
It really does not matter.
Any time and any season is a good time to start the Bedwetting treatment.
I wet my bed until I was 14, will my child wet until that age?
The tendency for bed-wetting, in many cases, is hereditary.
That is not to say that a child will wet his bed until the age that one of his parents did.
Bed wetting is usually treatable from the age of 4.
My son is 5 years old, and he stared wetting his bed 2 months ago. He says that, “the body does it by itself”, meaning he does not feel it. I have no desire to make an issue out of it, therefore we just change his clothes and that’s it, but this has lasted a long time now.
My question is, do you have any tips before we start the Bed-wetting treatment with an electronic alarm?
A. You are right not to put pressure on the child and just change his clothes.
B. The child is right. He does not feel a thing. It is not under his control.
C. There truly no actions or tips before the treatment begins.
The Bedwetting treatment with the electronic alarm is very simple, and it gives the appropriate answer to your child’s problem.